The Shift In Relationship Values

 

We live in a time when attitudes and values toward relationship are changing. In a time of cultural transition there will always be a lot of confusion and experimentation as old norms and values break down. However, what we see emerging is an increasing capacity to live from and in the soul. This impacts one's approach to relationship. Below we have tried to compare some of the differences of the new soul approach with traditional attitudes.

Old Style	Soul Approach
Based on emotional, physical attraction and personal needs or wants, social considerations	Based on soul resonance and shared spiritual purpose
Obligations, expectations	Authenticity
Unequal power and sharing	Equality, mutuality, reciprocity
A sense of lack -- fulfillment comes from without, relationship based on getting	Fulfillment from within--relationship based on sharing and giving
A sense of vulnerability, self doubts, insecurity	A sense of safety, trust, openness, self-assurance
Large areas of unconsciousness, repression, secrets	Shared endeavor to bring things to conscious awareness and integrate
Roles and societal norms important	Freedom to be totally one's self
Living for "something else" -- ulterior motivations	Living in and fulfillment in the moment
Relationship circumscribed in a static reality	Relationship as an "open doorway" to a boundless reality
Sex is primarily biologically creative, establishing historical continuity	Sex is also consciously creative, manifesting spiritual potential
Dualistic thinking; right/wrong, good/bad	Consciousness based on the soul's intuitive sense of knowing
"Special relationships" for ego purposes	"Holy relationships" for soul
Individual identities are defined, discrete and separate	Individuals experience transformation and more fluid interconnection

 

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